what tended actually collects, why, who it's shared with, and how to control or delete it — in plain language, not legal fog.
tended is built around a pairing, not a single account. the app learns about you and your partner — through what you type, what you say out loud, and, if you turn it on, where you go — so it can quietly suggest thoughtful things to do for each other.
that means it holds genuinely personal information: journal entries, preferences, and (optionally) location. tap into any section below for the details.
this is the most sensitive thing tended can collect, so we're being precise about it.
tended uses ai to turn what you write, say, and where you go into thoughtful suggestions for your partner — that's the core of the product, not an add-on.
your partner never sees your raw journal entries. only you can read what you actually wrote.
what your partner does see is a summarized, ai-compiled version of your preferences and patterns — the distilled takeaways, not your original words. journal entries you mark private skip that process entirely and never inform anything your partner sees.
memories, dates, and wishlist items you both add are shared by design — that's the point of them.
we don't sell your data, ever. these are the service providers tended runs on.
when you subscribe, your card details go directly to stripe or, for in-app purchases, to the app store's own payment system. tended's servers never see or store your full card number — only a reference token used to process future charges.
we keep your data for as long as your account is active. location visit history and derived patterns are kept indefinitely while location is on, to help tended recognize genuine patterns over time — turning location off stops new collection but doesn't automatically erase history already gathered.
deleting your account is a shared decision, since tended is built around a pairing — both partners confirm it, and it's permanent once complete. the full process, timeline, and exactly what gets deleted (profile, journal, memories, suggestions, location history, and the accounts themselves, across every system tended uses) is laid out on our account deletion page.
tended is meant for adults in a committed relationship and is not directed to children. we don't knowingly collect personal information from anyone under 13. if you believe a child has provided us with personal information, contact us and we'll remove it.
data in transit between the app and our servers is encrypted. no system is perfectly secure, and we can't guarantee absolute protection — but we take reasonable, industry-standard measures to keep your information safe, and we continue to review and improve them.
if this policy changes in a meaningful way, we'll update the date at the top of this page and, for significant changes, let you know in the app.
if anything here is unclear, or you'd like to know more about your data, reach out directly.
contact@tendedapp.io